Motherhood & Parenting

38 Weeks: What I Will Miss Most

My pregnancy with baby #5 has flown by! I can’t believe we are just a few short weeks away from meeting our newest little family member! I am so full of anticipation and excitement…the entire family is! Is it a boy? A girl? What does he or she look like? As I am counting down the days until we meet this sweet babe, I can’t help but feel a bit sad that this pregnancy is almost over.

Yes, you read that right! Even at 38 weeks and all of the third trimester symptoms at their greatest, I am going to miss so many things about this precious time! With all of my pregnancies, I have never taken for granted what an amazing miracle it is!

I will say, I am blessed with pretty uneventful and uncomplicated pregnancies. That helps with a positive attitude for sure! But the miracle of it all and all of the sweet amazing moments are unforgettable!

Some of the things I am going to miss the most are:

-Feeling the baby move: I think this is probably everyone’s favorite part! All day long, a constant little reminder of the sweet baby growing inside you! (Granted, I can live without the swift kicks to the ribs or the punches to the bladder!)

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Life, Motherhood & Parenting

I’m Back! And With An Exciting Annoucement!

Oh my! It has been so long since I’ve blogged. This summer has been super crazy busy but it has been so fun. It can be hard to keep up with the kiddos, hubby, house and work and enjoy the sunshine and find time to fit in blogging so I took a little break.

But I just so happen to have the best time to come back! With a fun new announcement! The Fiely tribe is expanding…

…that is right! Baby #5 is due in February!

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We are over the moon excited! Our lives are so full of crazy and fun and chaos but it is also so full of love. I am beyond grateful that we get to add to it!

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Marriage

Hey Coach: A Letter From The Coach’s Wife

Hey Coach,

School is out and baseball season is upon us. Going into the season with three kids in the sport, I knew we would be busy and I knew you would be involved. Life would be crazy.  But you can’t stay away. With all of the busy nights, ball games, and stressful times, I wanted to let you know that I see you.

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Motherhood & Parenting

Mom Truth: Frustration & Feeling Invisible

This past weekend Marlee and Milo each came down with a weird stomach bug. Weird meaning they puked and pooped but no fever. They were totally drained. Went from wanting to eat to feeling too full to eat. They would be better for one day and then back down the next. It was frustrating for all of us…especially me, mom.

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It was frustrating because it was the holiday weekend. I had taken Friday off so we had a four day weekend together. The weather was gorgeous and I had all these ideas of lazy afternoons, family activities, campfires, hiking, pure joy. But God had other plans.

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Motherhood & Parenting

Changing Focus: Becoming a Positive Mom

Have you ever noticed that us moms have a tendency to ‘complain’ about our lives? So many times when I hear moms get asked how they are doing or how their night was. Their answer usually isn’t “Oh, I am doing wonderful!” or ‘We had a great night!” It usually ends up being something like “Oh, you know, I have four kids, how do you think I am doing?” or “Well, I only got 3 hours of sleep so I am exhausted!”. Has anyone ever noticed this? I will say that I am definitely guilty of this as well! It’s hard to be positive!
Changing Focus: Becoming a Positive Mom
I feel like part of motherhood is this unspoken truth between us that we all have crazy lives. We are all doing our best, raising kids, keeping a house, homeschooling, working full time, running a business, whatever it is. We can all relate.

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DIY & Design, Home Decor

Saving Space: Minimal Toddler Bedroom

Every time I tell people that my toddler sleeps in our closet I get strange looks. I can’t imagine why? Ha! It is true though! She literally sleeps in the closet right off of our bedroom. Now, to clarify…this is a decent sized walk in closet, our second closet that was unused. (All of our clothes are in our other closet!) But, it is a closet none the less. And it works perfectly!

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Holidays & Parties, Motherhood & Parenting

Vayda’s Classic Minnie 2nd Birthday Party

When Vayda’s second birthday was approaching I knew I wanted to come up with a really fun and cute theme! Marlee had a Minnie Mouse birthday party for her second birthday and Vayda loves Minnie Mouse just the same! To make Vayda’s party stand out from Marlee’s, I went with the Classic Minnie Mouse theme instead of the current popular pink Minnie Mouse from Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. Continue reading to learn all of the details!

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With my simple, classic style, I LOVED the idea of clean black, white and red decorations! Like I mentioned when I spoke about Chase’s Camping Birthday, we don’t do huge parties but I like to have a little fun with the theme. This time was no different!

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Holidays & Parties, Motherhood & Parenting

Celebration! All About Chase’s Camping Themed Birthday Party!

Last weekend we celebrated Chase’s birthday! My youngest son turned 7 and we had a celebration with family and friends. All of our birthday parties are small and nothing extravagant but I like to add a fun theme for them and decorate a little from that!

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The rule in our family has gone, starting on your seventh birthday, you get to invite school friends! (Don’t ask why seven…that was the first year Marlee had friends and we just kind of stuck to that!) Chase was so excited! He ended up having two of his best friends join in the fun and they had a blast!

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Life, Motherhood & Parenting

My Family Introductions: Chase Eugene

I am in some serious denial today. My baby boy is turning seven tomorrow. I have yet to find a way to bottle them up. To freeze time. As I prepare this post I am looking at all of his old pictures and all of his warm soft squishiness comes rushing back. Those deep blue eyes, that bright blonde hair and that sweet smile. At the same time, my mother’s heart is torn as I watch my baby grow into such a young, spirited boy. With his birthday tomorrow, I wanted to share with you and document our youngest son, Chase Eugene. Trust me, he is worth getting to know!

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Chase was born four days late, in typical Fiely child style, on March 24, 2010. For some reason, Erik and I were sure we were having another girl. After Marlee & Milo, it seemed my pregnancy mirrored that of Marlee’s. Even until the end, we had settled on a girl’s name and just had the mind set. Two weeks before he was due, we came across the name Chase and decided that would be the name for a boy, but we figured we wouldn’t need it. Continue Reading

Life

Walk MS: Multiple Sclerosis Affects Me & Countless Others

Many of you may not know much about Multiple Sclerosis. Some of you may have heard of it and not really understand it. And some of you may know it all too well because either you or someone you know suffers from the disease. MS is a neurological disease. One that affects millions of people and one that, for me, hits close to home.

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I am one of those millions of people whom it affects. I don’t personally have MS, but one of the greatest woman in the world does. The person who raised me, who taught me to walk and ride a bike. Who showed me how to bake cookies and how to keep a clean house. My mom. My mother was diagnosed with this stupid disease years ago. And along with her, I am fighting to find a cure!

Multiple Sclerosis: n. a chronic, typically progressive disease involving damage to the sheaths of nerve cells in the brain and spinal cord, whose symptoms may include numbness, impairment of speech and of muscular coordination, blurred vision, and severe fatigue.

There is so much unknown about MS. There is no cure but over the years, with donations and research, they have found ways of treating the symptoms. One thing working against all of these doctors and researchers is that each case is unique, not one of them the same. A perfect example, my uncle and godfather and my mom’s brother, was diagnosed with MS at a younger age than her and died at a young age, with young kids, do to complications from the disease. Even though they cannot link MS to be hereditary in any way, my mother found herself diagnosed years later but with somewhat different symptoms. Her’s doesn’t seem to be quite as severe and she has actually been in remission. She was diagnosed at a later age, much later than most ever are, and has been controlling her symptoms pretty successfully so far…although there are days.

Each year we have made it a tradition to join other families and our community and walk in our local MS walk. I love the feeling of community and support that this walk brings! We rally together and all do our best to raise money to fund research and to fight to find a cure!

I invite all of you to please take a moment, do some research, become aware, get involved and maybe most importantly, DONATE. Donate to help find a cure. Donate to the countless hours of research. Donate for my mom. Donate for my late uncle and the children he left behind. Donate for my friend. Your friend. Your neighbor. Anyone and everyone.

Please also pray. Pray for the sufferers. Pray for their families and friends. Pray for the doctors and researchers. Pray to end the suffering and pray for a cure!

You will find a link here to donate. Anything and everything is appreciated. God bless!