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Mom Truth: Frustration & Feeling Invisible

This past weekend Marlee and Milo each came down with a weird stomach bug. Weird meaning they puked and pooped but no fever. They were totally drained. Went from wanting to eat to feeling too full to eat. They would be better for one day and then back down the next. It was frustrating for all of us…especially me, mom.

Mom Truth: Frustration | www.loveandmessiness.com

It was frustrating because it was the holiday weekend. I had taken Friday off so we had a four day weekend together. The weather was gorgeous and I had all these ideas of lazy afternoons, family activities, campfires, hiking, pure joy. But God had other plans.

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Motherhood & Parenting

Changing Focus: Becoming a Positive Mom

Have you ever noticed that us moms have a tendency to ‘complain’ about our lives? So many times when I hear moms get asked how they are doing or how their night was. Their answer usually isn’t “Oh, I am doing wonderful!” or ‘We had a great night!” It usually ends up being something like “Oh, you know, I have four kids, how do you think I am doing?” or “Well, I only got 3 hours of sleep so I am exhausted!”. Has anyone ever noticed this? I will say that I am definitely guilty of this as well! It’s hard to be positive!
Changing Focus: Becoming a Positive Mom
I feel like part of motherhood is this unspoken truth between us that we all have crazy lives. We are all doing our best, raising kids, keeping a house, homeschooling, working full time, running a business, whatever it is. We can all relate.

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Holidays & Parties, Motherhood & Parenting

Vayda’s Classic Minnie 2nd Birthday Party

When Vayda’s second birthday was approaching I knew I wanted to come up with a really fun and cute theme! Marlee had a Minnie Mouse birthday party for her second birthday and Vayda loves Minnie Mouse just the same! To make Vayda’s party stand out from Marlee’s, I went with the Classic Minnie Mouse theme instead of the current popular pink Minnie Mouse from Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. Continue reading to learn all of the details!

Vayda's Classic Minnie Birthday | www.loveandmessiness.com

With my simple, classic style, I LOVED the idea of clean black, white and red decorations! Like I mentioned when I spoke about Chase’s Camping Birthday, we don’t do huge parties but I like to have a little fun with the theme. This time was no different!

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Holidays & Parties, Motherhood & Parenting

Celebration! All About Chase’s Camping Themed Birthday Party!

Last weekend we celebrated Chase’s birthday! My youngest son turned 7 and we had a celebration with family and friends. All of our birthday parties are small and nothing extravagant but I like to add a fun theme for them and decorate a little from that!

Chase's 7th Camping Themed Birthday | www.loveandmessiness.com

The rule in our family has gone, starting on your seventh birthday, you get to invite school friends! (Don’t ask why seven…that was the first year Marlee had friends and we just kind of stuck to that!) Chase was so excited! He ended up having two of his best friends join in the fun and they had a blast!

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Life, Motherhood & Parenting

My Family Introductions: Chase Eugene

I am in some serious denial today. My baby boy is turning seven tomorrow. I have yet to find a way to bottle them up. To freeze time. As I prepare this post I am looking at all of his old pictures and all of his warm soft squishiness comes rushing back. Those deep blue eyes, that bright blonde hair and that sweet smile. At the same time, my mother’s heart is torn as I watch my baby grow into such a young, spirited boy. With his birthday tomorrow, I wanted to share with you and document our youngest son, Chase Eugene. Trust me, he is worth getting to know!

Family Introduction: Chase Eugene | loveandmessiness.com

Chase was born four days late, in typical Fiely child style, on March 24, 2010. For some reason, Erik and I were sure we were having another girl. After Marlee & Milo, it seemed my pregnancy mirrored that of Marlee’s. Even until the end, we had settled on a girl’s name and just had the mind set. Two weeks before he was due, we came across the name Chase and decided that would be the name for a boy, but we figured we wouldn’t need it. Continue Reading

Holidays & Parties, Motherhood & Parenting

7 Great Lent Ideas for Kids

The Lent season is fast approaching and if your family celebrates Lent like ours, you are probably trying to think of ideas of things you could sacrifice. It is especially challenging to come up with good ideas for the kids to give up! I took some time and put together a great list of Lenten ideas and sacrifices for kids!

Even if you don’t celebrate Lent, these ideas are a great conversation starter to have with your kids. You could work together and learn more about gratitude and sacrifice in everyday life. Below is a list of 7 different ideas your children could consider!

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Motherhood & Parenting

A Beautiful Mess: Motherhood & Getting Closer to God

Motherhood is a combination of love and messiness. That is the perfect title for my blog because that is what my day to day life entails. Being a mother is the best thing that has ever happened to me and with each child, my heart has grown even bigger. With that being said, that doesn’t mean its always the best thing. In fact, there are many days where I feel like everything is going wrong and I have no idea what I am doing. Lately I have learned that on days like this, the best place to turn is upward!

A Beautiful Mess Bible Study | loveandmessiness.com

One of my goals for 2017 (along with being more organized, among a million other things!) is to actively become closer to God. I have turned more toward faith these lasts few years but I want to really become more active in it. Read the Bible, attend church more regularly, pray more with my husband. Those kind of things. One day I opened Facebook and there it was! The perfect opportunity! Some local girls were putting on a bible study. Normally I wouldn’t have thought twice but something called me to it and on a whim, I signed up!

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Holidays & Parties, Motherhood & Parenting

Our Christmas Gift Limit & How Why We Changed Our Ways

A few years ago Erik and I seriously downsized Christmas. We never really went overboard but the kids always got plenty of gifts! One night, as we were walking through what was then our toy room, we looked around in awe of all of the toys the kids had! We had two entire closet shelving units on one wall, full wall to ceiling of toys!

We stood there and tried to remember the last time the kids had played with all of them. Some of them we knew they had outgrown and others we hadn’t seen them play with in ages. The next step was obvious…sort and clean!

Our Christmas Gift Limit & Why We Changed Our Ways | LoveAndMessiness.com

As we were going through all of the toys, I kept feeling guilt. I was worried they would miss them, or that they played with them sometimes. Finally, it got late, and Erik told me to just head on to bed and he would finish. Although a little concerned…haha…I went on ahead anyways.

When I got up the next morning I was mortified! He had literally cleared out over half of the shelves. The top half was empty! I was beside myself! I went to him explaining how upset the kids would be and how would we explain this?! Then, I got an even bigger surprise… Continue Reading

Motherhood & Parenting

New Family Pictures!

We got some quick, new family pictures taken and I am so excited! I wish I had the chance to take these more often because our family changes so much! But unfortunately time is not on our side and our crazy life gets away from us!

And let me tell you…as many of you other mama’s know…taking a decent photo of a moody toddler is not an easy task! I usually take the kids pictures each year and at every milestone. I love that I am able to do this and I love the photos so much more than those standard school pictures!

This year I had big dreams of how they would turn out but I was rushed trying to keep Vayda’s attention. This means we came away with one good picture of each of the bigger three, a much of pictures of the four of them where the lighting was even too bad for Photoshop and a few snaps of a blurry toddler.

After this attempt, I contacted an ‘expert’…a great friend and family member who has some experience under her belt! I was hoping with me dancing like a fool behind her, we could get one shot of Vayda with a smile! Plus it’s hard to take a photo of the six of us and be behind the camera! Ha!

So we went out and tried again! We were still rushed, with the sun setting so soon any more and Vayda’s short attention span, but we came away with some good ones! Between my shots and hers, we came away with a good family photo, a good shot of the kids and a good picture of each of the kids separate! Here they are!

The Fiely Family | LoveAndMessiness.com

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Motherhood & Parenting

Our Thankful Poster: Teaching the Kids to be Grateful

I am always trying to find different ways to show the kids how important it is to be grateful. There are so many children in the world today who don’t think to be thankful for the things in their lives. I feel that as parents, it is our job to help them understand this concept.

We always incorporate thank you’s into our prayers and every once in a while I will bring the topic up at dinner or during a car ride. It is kind of fun to see their minds work at the concept!

Thankful Poster | www.loveandmessiness.com

Each year, when November comes around I think it is really important to teach the reason for the Thanksgiving holiday. There are so many reasons for every one of us to be grateful for our lives and the people and things in them!

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